Thursday, June 29, 2006
There is a certain hierarchy that the youths of today are demanded to follow. The hierarchy of age.
We live in a country where the younger ones are expected to respect their elders. And the thought of rebellion is absolutley taboo. At least for the older generation anyway. And this
old tradditional way of thinking is very much enforced, even in today's modern society.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that we shouldn't respect our elders.It is actually quite a virtue. But strangely enough, it is for the very same reasons that we young people simply cannot communicate or get along with our elders, ie. parents.
The reason is very simple.
When you demand respect, it is equivalent to telling us straight in the face that we are below them, not anywhere equal to them, not to even mention above them. And because of this, we will obviously shut them out of our lives if not almost completely, then completely.
Friends on the other hand treat us as equals, not above nor below. And that's why, we choose to tell them everything. It is also the fact that they understand and can relate to us.
Now, it is not that we don't try to have a friend-parent relationship with our folks, but it's just that they wouldn't permit us.
You talk to them like they're your friends, and they complain that you're showing them no respect. Yet when you choose not to tell them anything, for obvious reasons, they say that you still have no respect for them and that you'd rather spend time with your friends than them.
The problem is pretty obvious. Isn't it?
9:21 pm